The Midsters Podcast

13. Laugh or Cry...We Knew We Were Old When...

July 23, 2022 Season 1 Episode 13
The Midsters Podcast
13. Laugh or Cry...We Knew We Were Old When...
Show Notes Transcript

This week Tish, Ellen, and Felicia share lots of laughs and stories about moments when they've felt old and how they've managed to face their 50s head-on.  This is a topic that everyone can relate to and laugh along with. 


Obsessions
Tish: Bautista  coconut dry shampoo
Ellen:  Tony's Chocoloney is ethically sourced chocolate
Felicia: a diet trick - hummus  and celery sticks on the go

Tish Woods:

Hey Midsters. So we are going to talk about a really funny subject this week. So the three of us were talking, and we keep saying the same thing over and over to each other. I just feel old when this happens, I just feel old when that happens. So we're gonna go through some of the things that make us laugh at ourselves, about what makes us feel old about ourselves. And I think it could be kind of funny, I think you're all going to relate to at least a lot of them. So, but before we get to that, you know, we always have to talk about our obsessions. So Feli, I want you to kick us off with our obsessions today.

Felicia Pasquier:

Well, I know I'm getting older because I can't lose weight, first of all, so I'm trying to watch what I'm eating. So I have tried to find something that's very satisfied to keep me full, and something that can last me a long time. So I have started eating hummus and celery sticks. And it has become so delicious to me that I eat it literally every single day. When I'm out in the field. If I haven't packed it, I will stop by my local Publix. I get the little package of pre cut salaries, and a thing of hummus and I eat it. It's just really good, higher protein. The celery is filling and it's something that I now had been doing every single day probably for the last three weeks. So that's my obsession this week. That sounds good At

Tish Woods:

least do you vary the hummus. Do you try different varieties of hummus? Are you?

Felicia Pasquier:

What? I love it so much that I'm learning how to make it. I'm going to I just haven't had time, but I think it's very easy. You just get sick or bat Garbonzo beans. olive oil, lemon juice, and there's something else. Yes,

Tish Woods:

That's Tahini

Ellen Gustafson:

Yes. And you can do it with white beans to like those big Italian white beans. It's really nice to make it that way. Yes.

Felicia Pasquier:

So that's my, that may be my next obsession. What about you, Ellen, do you have an obsession this week?

Ellen Gustafson:

Well, of course I do. And I knew I was old when I fell in love with Tony's Chocoloney bars

Tish Woods:

Well, I heard

Ellen Gustafson:

of this not. I'm obviously not watching my waist, which I should but Tony's Chocholony is chocolate that there are these big bars and they come in all these yummy, yummy flavors. And what's interesting about it is you can you know it's ethically sourced. I didn't know this but a friend My friend Pookie shout out to her up in Portland. She turned me on to this chocolate and there is slavery in the chocolate biz still to this day. And Tony's chalk Aloni is like all ethically sourced and great ingredients. They have so many flavors. Mine happens to be my favorite is the milk, honey almond. So the three of us just cannot get off of honey here. No. I'm just gonna say you know, take a take a look for these. There's dark there's light, there's light dark almonds, nuts new gets. So we'll put a picture up and I think of link to some Tony's Chocholony needs just the name is fun to say. No, I love that right? Tish What's your obsession this week?

Tish Woods:

Okay, so I was thinking about my obsession for this week and I thought you know what is something that I use like every single day and I have become absolutely obsessed with using dry shampoos. Now I have really long hair that you know gets fragile. I might just color it the little maybe perhaps just maybe a tad there. But I started using dry shampoos and I have to tell you I have tried every brand out there expensive one cheap ones it doesn't matter I've tried them all. But there is one brand that I particularly love which is the Batiste and there is one type of it that I like more than all the other other ones and that is their tropical exotic coconut one. And I am telling you so my hair like it the roots it'll get real oily and stuff. So anytime I just want to freshen up my hair. You know, just spray it in there and it smells fresh and it looks fresh. And I've even noticed that even when my hair is freshly washed A lot of times, I'll put it in there to do some texture. Because it texturize is a little, little bit. So, um, if you are still in the habit of washing your hair every day, which is really not good for your hair, I gotta tell you, this is a great way to go. You're running late to go to somewhere you just want to freshen up or you just came, you know, from the gym, and maybe you can't go right and take a shower. It's just a really great way to just kind of freshen your hair up in between. So that's my obsession.

Ellen Gustafson:

Well, and who doesn't love coconut? Never a person that doesn't like the smell of coconut

Felicia Pasquier:

And I can attest to her love of this dry shampoo because she introduced it to me one time she when she was at my house, and it has different colors. They have different flavors. And so yes, I know for a fact 100% that she uses this dry shampoo and is obsessed with

Tish Woods:

it. But I can't wait so Feli. I want you to start us off with this crazy kind of notion of I knew I was old when so we can get a good laugh at ourselves here.

Felicia Pasquier:

Yeah. Okay, so apparently forgetting people's names, losing hair, feeling stiff. Groaning, bending down, are all sings of getting old. Apparently. There is nothing. No one better in this world to remind you of how old you're getting than a 21 year old daughter. Okay. Oh, I am reminded daily about how old I am. And I'm just gonna give one example. I have a list of things. But I think one day I realized that I was really old. I was talking to my daughter and I said something about well, something about wearing a slip. I don't even remember the contents. And she said What are you talking about? I go, you know, a slip. She was like, No, I don't know what you're talking about. I said, you know, the silky thing. You were under your dress or your skirt. So there's no static. She said, You spray hairspray. I'm like, No, it's a slip. She literally have no clue. And at that point, I realized Am I like is this like corsets? You know, like we never wore corsets, but maybe our grandmothers did. But no, and I felt ancient because she had not even heard she had no idea what a slip was.

Tish Woods:

How could you not have seen you in one? Yeah,

Felicia Pasquier:

I've stopped wearing it. What I don't wear it slips anymore. Oh, okay. Okay, you were who were slips

Ellen Gustafson:

do I do? You? Do I do that I also have that shape where that looks like a little dress, you know, right. It's like a slip and so yeah. Plus, sometimes things are see through, like on the bottom, you know, and of course we're not 21 So who wants your skirt to be see through? But I worried that I think it's from like shape or mint or honey love or something like that? Yeah. But it's like it almost is like a little dress that right?

Felicia Pasquier:

And that's different than a slip you know, this silky thing that we used to wear. But we would wear him in college. Do you? I remember taking my slip to college. You know, we I

Ellen Gustafson:

do still have a slip like a half slip. When I think about it,

Tish Woods:

are you feeling older now?

Ellen Gustafson:

Not only do I feel old, but I think the slip itself is probably like 25 or 30.

Felicia Pasquier:

Probably, you know if we're talking about slips, so you know the other thing that people don't wear pantyhose. No one wears pantyhose. I mean, thank goodness, but pantyhose in college. Absolutely. No one wears them anymore. So that's a that's a blessing.

Ellen Gustafson:

Yes. Nobody wears leg warmers either

Tish Woods:

in the winter tights maybe

Felicia Pasquier:

tan pantyhose the eggs. Remember the eggs that we would go and the sheer energy and yeah, that has kind of gone by the wayside. Anyway, so I have a list. You know, when this topic came up, I remember mentioning it to fit this was like we're a positive podcast. We don't talk about being old. Alright, but we are old. And I think what we want to take from this is that we want to embrace growing old and we can do it gracefully. And we can do it with a lot of you know, that can be fun. Yeah, and humor. Exactly. No, I'm just gonna start rattling things off and I want you guys to jump in. I think the first thing is and I find myself doing this all the time. talking a lot about my joints and my ailment ailments. I have an SI joint pave. I've never been that goes down the leg. My shoulders are I'm doing stretches for my Shoulder. So I think when we start complaining about our ailments, this is a sure sign that we're getting old,

Ellen Gustafson:

you know, family that reminds me of listening to my grandparents and their friends talk and first thing they do is be like, wow, you know, my hip is not feeling good today. So, it does make me feel really old, but I do have bursitis.

Felicia Pasquier:

But don't you have ailments and pains going on?

Ellen Gustafson:

Yes. Yeah, I do. Absolutely. We didn't have when we were younger. No. And first thing when you get out of bed, they're the worst.

Felicia Pasquier:

Well, that was my next one. groning. When you get out of bed or you bend down to get something just be honest. Is there a really groaning in the air?

Ellen Gustafson:

I plead the fifth.

Tish Woods:

I think for me, it's the first thing in the morning when I get up. And it's like, okay, can my ankles work? Can my ankles work?

Felicia Pasquier:

Yep, yep, that's road get. That's the side. Okay, here's one. Not knowing any of the songs at the top 10 We're still listening to Cat Stevens.

Ellen Gustafson:

Or even worse, having something come on the radio and being like, turn that station. Now I cannot do that. Oh, huh.

Felicia Pasquier:

Listening to the old days. Yes. So not knowing who's at the top 10. Well,

Tish Woods:

Feli with our music is starting to be called retro.

Felicia Pasquier:

Yes, yes. Oh, my God. Yeah. What? Yes.

Ellen Gustafson:

When they have on Sirius XM, they have a special 80s station. And I'm like, my station. It's an oldies. It seems like it's an old station. That is

Felicia Pasquier:

funny. Now, this is a big one. We had a reunion a few years ago. I don't know if I've, at least 15 years ago. And none of us wore glasses in college. And we sat down and we started sharing photos of our pets and our kids. And all of a sudden I look up and every single woman at the table had their readers on

Ellen Gustafson:

Yes, I remember that. And the menu too. We couldn't see anything on the menu and get

Felicia Pasquier:

to the to the

Tish Woods:

five particularly like when you can pass them around if somebody forgot to share yours. One of my besties Liz and I give you the glass it's giving you were like too old bickering and ladies sharing the glasses.

Ellen Gustafson:

I was I was just gonna say now 15 years later, I have readers in my car reader says to my bed readers in every purse, sometimes I readers in pockets known to play music reason, my bra if I'm doing a hike or something because I need them close and I don't want to have them on. So at our age, you have to have five pairs of readers minimum.

Felicia Pasquier:

What about the panic when you get in the car and you realize you don't have your readers have to go back inside because it's panic because you cannot go anywhere without your readers and it's sheer panic.

Tish Woods:

I saw a very funny Tik Tok where this woman had a pair of readers way on her head. And then she had another pair of readers somebody like halfway down. She's looking for the readers. And it was a really I just laugh because it was so relatable. Yes, I looked for my readers when they're on my eyes

Ellen Gustafson:

Tish. I've been there. I think what's even funnier though, is I know the three of us all decided we'd had enough of with readers about a year ago. We all went on contacts Yep. We knew we were old because none of us could get him in. And then we couldn't get him out.

Tish Woods:

Oh, yeah. Yeah.

Felicia Pasquier:

What was your story about the context? So we all got bifocal context, right? All three of us. Ellen one night. She couldn't take it out. Did it you know, a friend in panic and you were crying because you couldn't take out the contacts.

Ellen Gustafson:

We'll know what's worse is I thought I took it out when I went to my doctor and learned how to put them in and I was driving home and I was like, gosh, that my eye my one eye feels like I can see really well and I woke up the next morning, and the contact had been in my eye and my eye had blown up like a Cyclops and I had to go back to the eye doctor in embarrassment on an emergency to take the contact that I thought I had taken out no crying and then never put him back in after that. That was

Tish Woods:

well I went to get contacts and I tried for over an hour and a half, one of the contacts out of my eye, which they told me the next day was already out of mind I, but I was convinced it was still in my eye. And I said, What is wrong with you people giving a blind person clear contacts, I can have color on these. I couldn't know if they're in or out. So I have actually ordered though I haven't taken out of package yet blue. I'm actually going to have blue contacts, because I couldn't tell what the green ones were in. My eyes are too green.

Felicia Pasquier:

I'll tell one more. One more funny story about the contacts. One night, I had gone out drinking and I came home, I whipped those contacts out like, Oh, this is great. I can learn how to do it. So a few nights later, I had a panic attack because I couldn't get out my contact. And I was almost crying. I went to my daughter, I can't get it out. So what I did is I went to the refrigerator chugged like a wine cooler. But can be tipsy. And I would be relaxed and I checked this thing. And next thing I know Yes, I could take out the content.

Tish Woods:

And you're not even a drinker.

Felicia Pasquier:

I was a terrible example to my daughter. Just a terrible thing.

Ellen Gustafson:

Haley, was it a white claw? Did you go for

Felicia Pasquier:

a white claw? Yeah, we

Ellen Gustafson:

know we're old because we think white claws should become partisan, James. We're all

Tish Woods:

because we drink white coffee. Do you know how many people recently have given me packs of white claw because somebody has left the white claw their house and they don't like

Felicia Pasquier:

that? Oh, man. Okay, so the next one, and we kind of Ellen you kind of touched on this but it was the glasses but misplacing your glasses, your bed, your car keys, your, your cell phone. How about this one, you're on yourself, talking to someone, and you're walking around the room trying to find your cell phone

Tish Woods:

in, I might have done that.

Ellen Gustafson:

I know that I have a funny one to add to this. I recently got air pods, I guess you'd call them. I was very reluctant to get them. But I did. And my kids had to show me how to sync it with my phone again how to feel old. So I kept misplacing them. And my youngest kid Will said every time you take them off, you have to put them back in the case, and then you will know where they are. And I was like, okay, that just makes perfect sense. But I didn't do that. And about a week ago, I think I fell asleep with them in like listening to something. And I could only find one. And I tore that room apart. And I couldn't find it and I tore the room apart again. And do you know what my youngest child said to me? I know where this is going to go and you put them in the case? Like I told you? The answer was no. And after about a week, I had to give in and go to apple and you can order one replacement because there are many people like me out there who write this one. But I felt very old after that experience very old.

Felicia Pasquier:

I thought you were gonna say you left it in your ear that you were looking everywhere. It was in your ear.

Ellen Gustafson:

I wish then I wouldn't have had to spend $89 to get it.

Felicia Pasquier:

Okay, well, my list is long. Do you guys have anything to add in as I go through my list? Because I mean, I have many.

Ellen Gustafson:

Well, I have one funny thing. And I think this has happened to all of us. But have you guys gotten an AARP card in the mail? Yes, yes. I mean, why did they start sending those when you're 50? But

Tish Woods:

I refuse to admit to that. Thanks.

Felicia Pasquier:

Yes, yes, yes. 50 it should not be 50 It should you we can't retire until we're 62. So save it till 62.

Tish Woods:

Well, how about this one? How about when they give you the senior citizen discount at the grocery store? And they didn't ask.

Felicia Pasquier:

Okay, that happened to me yesterday. We went to a thrift store. Like I said, we were thrifting for Levi's jeans to make cut offs. On the after I paid I walked out and I thought aside senior discount, what do you 25% off? So I go to my daughter, I want my 25% discount. I went back to the counter. And I said I want my 25 I said what's the senior discount? They said 55 And I said I'm 57 the lady said can I see your receipt please? I'm like that I was gonna get a credit. She credits a receipt. She points at the bottom. That senior discount 895 She gave me the discount without me even asking for,

Tish Woods:

I expect to still have to show my ID to buy liquor. Yes, let alone getting the discount.

Felicia Pasquier:

Do not assume I am a senior. It's tising. And of course, it was with my daughter who, you know, makes me feel ancient, you know, she has a way of doing that.

Ellen Gustafson:

All our kids I think have a way of family. You know,

Tish Woods:

what's funny is my daughter doesn't do that to me. No, really. She's always like, you know, you know, because my boys are older. You know, she's like, you know, you're one of the older moms of my friends. But you seem like you're the youngest.

Ellen Gustafson:

What's nice compliment it

Tish Woods:

was it was,

Ellen Gustafson:

you know, just faily I think we touched on this earlier, too, is how we're, we can't sleep late. And we're all just getting up early. And that is a huge bummer about being

Felicia Pasquier:

old. Oh, I don't have that problem. I'm a late sleeper. Got it.

Tish Woods:

I don't even have to set my alarm. I'm good. Yeah.

Felicia Pasquier:

That was one of the things I was looking forward to an old age was being able to wake up early and have a long day, but that has not happened. Okay, so this one is really good. This one is real. This is one of my favorite ones. Okay, thinking that policemen, teachers and doctors look really really young

Tish Woods:

Oh, yeah.

Felicia Pasquier:

Yeah, like Doogie Howser? You know? Yes, yes. Or

Tish Woods:

it's an I actually asked a doctor one time. Have you ever shaved? Okay.

Felicia Pasquier:

Tell me what's your sign? Oh, he

Tish Woods:

wasn't just a doctor. He was my surgeon. Have you ever shaved. Uh huh. Yeah, he looked way too young be working on me.

Felicia Pasquier:

Oh my god. Okay, this is a good one. And I know you all can relate, needing an afternoon nap.

Tish Woods:

I am not a napper.

Ellen Gustafson:

To know

Felicia Pasquier:

I, after I had the field sometimes I'm so tired. I have to pull over the shade. Take a quick nap. Put the seat back in the car. The comfort of a bed but yes,

Tish Woods:

we need your manager to hear that. faily Oh, no.

Felicia Pasquier:

I tell her.

Ellen Gustafson:

She knows I have my age. She's your age. Some of our kids need naps because they've been out to lay and they've been drinking. But we need naps just because we need

Tish Woods:

yeah, I've never been a Napper. No. That's usually my signal for more caffeine.

Felicia Pasquier:

Okay, I have more guys, unless you guys want to add I'm just gonna keep shooting and shooting until it kind

Tish Woods:

of happened to me. And this was years ago. Yeah, really was the first time that really struck me. Oh my god, I'm old. So when we were in college, I had my boyfriend was who later became my husband was from the Naval Academy. So spent many, many years at the Naval Academy going to dances and different things and hanging out. And I know you all are longing for a lot of that too. But later when my daughter was just two, so this is going back like 24 years. We actually lived on the grounds of the Academy because he was working at the Pentagon. And I had started to run and I would run the outside of the campus was like five miles around. Do you know how many times I would hear evening, ma'am? Evening, ma'am. Good evening, ma'am. And Feli I know you said it's a southern thing. But the kids at the Academy are from all the states. They were acknowledging the fact that the old lady went by. And I'm like, you know, just give me a cat call give me

Ellen Gustafson:

a whistle

Tish Woods:

Just just just Throw me a bone. Throw me a bone here. People know, just not old.

Ellen Gustafson:

You know, Tish I think you were probably maybe 35 at that time. You were not? Not old, not old at

Tish Woods:

all. Now it's like, Oh, yeah.

Felicia Pasquier:

Well, you know, you said something that's not on my list. This is really sad. So when I was younger, I would get cat calls. Now. no one looks at me. I noticed you're looking at my daughter. And you're like, No. Or we'll go somewhere and you know the guy. We went somewhere and the guy was very polite to me, but he was overly talkative with my daughter. And I'm like, that was just me just a few days, you know?

Tish Woods:

Because that's because Gia is like, positively stunning. So you shouldn't be hang in out with her.

Felicia Pasquier:

This happens when I went out when I'm by myself as well. I don't get them anymore. No, no more cat calls.

Tish Woods:

So, now I don't know, I've talked about this before. And I still think we need to do an episode about this about this whole new phenomenon about younger guys and older women. It's it's a real thing I get hit on by younger guys like, more and more and more. It's it's really unsettling to me. And my friends saying that I would not date anyone younger than their son's age or younger would just flip everybody out. But and I haven't done it, but it's like, wow, it's a thing.

Felicia Pasquier:

I have one of my really good friends. She's from a different friend group. She's from like, Mexico. You know, I grew up in Mexico. Dominique, she married a man 20 years younger than she is. Yeah. So does she

Tish Woods:

does she actually younger because of that?

Felicia Pasquier:

I don't know. She, she she was. Yeah, get heart.

Tish Woods:

Give us another one last kind of really good. Oh, my goodness. And make I know we could

Felicia Pasquier:

go okay. Okay, here's one because this is something that the kids love to do. struggling to think of anything worse than going to a music festival. Okay. Can you imagine anything worse in your life than having to go to a music festival with really loud music? Hot weather? No air conditioning, no bathrooms. Can you imagine anything worse than that?

Ellen Gustafson:

No. Loud people.

Felicia Pasquier:

The crowds, not days. Yeah,

Ellen Gustafson:

days. Out here Burning Man is happening coming up soon. And many times people have said, Do you want to go? Are you interested? And it's like, yeah, no, no, I'm afraid I can't get out. And it doesn't seem like I want to be in that kind of place for day after day after day.

Felicia Pasquier:

But we would have loved that when we were younger. But now I don't I you know, but anyway,

Tish Woods:

I always I always struggle. You know, I'm I'm half deaf as it is. But, um, I always struggle with being in loud restaurants. Places. I can't hear anybody. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So. Okay.

Felicia Pasquier:

That was the last one. I have one more.

Tish Woods:

This is it. One more. We'll go from one this is it

Felicia Pasquier:

Falling asleep after one glass of wine.

Ellen Gustafson:

Especially if it's an I don't have that problem. Especially if it's an afternoon. I have that if it's like only one glass in the afternoon. I will just definitely fall asleep. That's for sure.

Tish Woods:

I don't recall that happening to you in Napa .

Felicia Pasquier:

No, I was just thinking about how much we drank in college. And now, I don't want to drink because I don't want to be hungover. But I just can't drink that way anymore. No, you know,

Tish Woods:

you have one last one to throw in. Yeah, I have one last one.

Ellen Gustafson:

I do. I do. I am so happy that wearing sneakers with dresses is now.

Felicia Pasquier:

Yes. Dressing for comfort. Yes. Comfort

Ellen Gustafson:

shoe is comfortable. And know when that came in. I hope that never goes away.

Felicia Pasquier:

And you were on with the Little House on the Prairie dresses that are in target.

Ellen Gustafson:

Yes, you can. Yes, yes. Yes. It looks cute.

Tish Woods:

I'm sorry. I still like my heels. I will do that. But I still like my heels. So they're not all the time just 99 of this misters because these two can go on and on. I can tell you that. The point of this misters is we just need to laugh about it. Our bodies changing our lives changing Yes. Just keep laughing through it. Don't let it get you down. Don't let it make you depressed about oh, you know this is happening that is happening. Just get with your girlfriends and have one of these sessions and just really laugh it up because it is it's life. You know, it's okay. It's what brought me to here you know? Yep. So embrace those little aches and pains and embrace those. You know, buy five extra pair readers if you need to.

Ellen Gustafson:

Do wear the sneakers with a dress where the sneakers with a dress ladies.

Tish Woods:

Feel comfortable in your own skin. That's where it really comes down to. But Feli You really made us laugh tonight.

Ellen Gustafson:

I love that family and we

Felicia Pasquier:

might need a part two

Tish Woods:

We will need a part too. Yeah, and I want to hear from our Midster listeners. I want you to come and post on our the misters podcast Facebook page. Something that you think of like, what is something that's made you feel old? What is something that you laugh about with your girlfriends? Or something that we said struck a chord? Let us know about it. We really want to have a conversation with you all. So just put it out there, let us know and maybe we'll recap on our next episode. So until next week's misters Have a great week.

Ellen Gustafson:

Till next week. Bye guys.